Coping 6: Collecting moments
Coping is short posts on Fridays about coping methods for doing creative and focused things in an unfocused world. In Coping 6, the importance of sometimes not being in the moment.
If things are going poorly at this very moment, it can be hard to connect with how "good" feels. Worse than not feeling good is not feeling like the person you want to be, or the person who makes you feel at home in yourself.
Over the years, I've cultivated a practice of collecting the moments that make me feel good and right in myself. Mostly, this takes the form of noticing the moments that feel very good and very right, and taking the time to write the feeling down in as much detail as possible. What was happening, how did it feel, how did it make me feel like a version of myself I like and want to be? I collect these moments in a way that's easy to access in future – in the form of notes on my phone, with a clear and obvious title for easy browsing. When I feel disconnected from a version of myself I like and feel good in, these moments are available to go back to, re-read, and remember what that person feels like.
